Thursday, February 01, 2007

Wedding Dresses

So I have been to two bridal gown "trying ons". The first time I was just shocked. It wasn't a totally enjoyable experience, because it hit home that I would be walking down the aisle.

Don't get me wrong, I want to get married. I am just worried about the whole ceremony. I wish I could just blink at get it over, and then go to the reception. I have a fear of speaking in front of large audiences. And I don't like it when everyone is looking at me. I get extremely self-conscious. But on the other hand I am looking forward to the whole seriousness of the situation, and I am sort of torn. I want everyone to witness this moment, but I also feel like I want it to be personal and private.

The first trial I just looked at myself in the mirror and was speechless. Especially when they put a veil on me. I was almost in tears.

The second trial was a lot better. I was like those brides-to-be that you see in movies. All excited. Ooohing and aahing with each dress. It was fun.

But I have yet to find THE dress. And I don’t think I ever will. I found many dresses I liked, and would like to get married in.

The lady in the store helping me said sometimes that happens.

So I was wondering…does anyone have any bridal gown stories?


Blogger airforcewife said...

Because of boob issues, I normally make my own formals. I mean, I have to take them in at the waist anyway, I might as well just get exactly what I want to start with.

I planned to do so with my wedding dress, but then I went to Gottschalks on a whim and started trying things on. The perfect dress found me a month before my wedding.

Then I forgot a slip on the morning of my wedding, but that's a whole 'nother story. And embarrassing.

12:57 AM  
Blogger Tracie said...

When I got married I only had two weeks to pick out my dress. I found one, but the store forgot to take it in. So the morning of the wedding I put it on and well it didn't fit. So two of my aunts took safety pins and pinned it up the side seams. It was bad, but they fixed it. To this day the safety pins are still in the dress. Sad, but true.


7:28 AM  
Blogger MQ said...

Ohhh, you'll looooove mine. I got married a mere three weeks after my son was born, so I picked out a dress I think the week of the wedding. It was actually a prom dress, but it was white, sleeveless, low back, and looked just like a wedding gown (and I got it 50 percent off). For just having a kid, I think I looked pretty damn good :) You'll find "the dress", don't worry :)

1:26 PM  
Blogger Jon and Billie said...

Sorry, no experience to offer. Jon and I did the courthouse thing just to make it official before I left for Iraq thinking we'd have a traditional ceremony after I got back. I haven't tried on any dresses yet but I'm hoping when I do it gets me excited to actually have a ceremony since it's been a year and a half since that day.

Too bad we all have to wait to see what your dress is going to look like!! It's so exciting reading about the wedding keep it coming... :)

9:43 PM  
Blogger Hazel Woods said...

I ended up trading two bookcases for a wedding dress; a renaissance model pale blue satin over a white satin chemise. And the muslin in plain blue cloth, so I can reuse the dress for the SCA. (Shiny is not period. :) )

I miss the bookcases, but dragging them with me over 4000 miles was silly.

12:08 AM  
Blogger Stacy Kaye said...

You'll find a dress! I had an idea of what kind of dress I wanted, but thought that because I had a large chest I would be able to wear it. I searched a few shops to no avail. Then, I went to the Bridal Gallery. They make you feel like a queen! You must make an appointment. When you enter the store they make you take your shoes off and put on these little slippers. You are offered drinks and then you meet with your personal attendant. She asks you a few questions about what you want and then she flies around the store finding dresses that she thinks would be fabulous on you! I remember looking at the one dress she had picked out. I thought it was gorgeous, but I didn't think that it would work on me! As she was helping me put it on, my heart started racing! I looked amazing! I walked out to my friends and they gasped and said, "This is IT!"

Well, my mom had originally planned to make my dress, I was just trying them on for the idea. When I asked if I could take a picture, the woman said no. The dress was about $1000. I didn't think I could afford to just buy it and I wasn't sure I could find one like it to show to my mom.

I went online and found my exact dress! I sent the picture to my mom in South Dakota-I was in British Columbia. She said, "Stace, that's quite the dress! I don't know if I can make it!" My heart dropped. She told me she would see if she could find one at a bridal store near there to look at. She did and when she went to look at it she found that it was only $600! So, she bought it for me on the spot! She said it would be a gift to me!

All was well and on my wedding day I felt absolutely gorgeous. Don't worry, you will find the dress. And, you could wear a paper bag and your soon-to-be-hubby would think you were the most beautiful girl in the room!

7:16 PM  
Blogger Erin said...

When I found my gown, I knew it was the one I wanted. And I think it was the third one I tried on. However, that was the first thing I did in preparation for our wedding - so I had a year to obsessively try on the dress. By the time my wedding came around, I wanted a different one. I think I had tried it on so many times and gotten so used to it that I wanted something new. So my advice to you is the longer it takes you to find a dress the better. It may stress you out initially, but at least your dress will still *feel* new by the time your wedding rolls around.

8:48 PM  
Blogger loquita said...

Hi, I've been lurking, but after reading your comment at SpouseBuzz, decided to "delurk." Hi. :)

I think that the most important thing about your dress is that you feel comfortable, glamorous and sexy. Don't forget you'll be dancing the night away at your reception after making your walk down the aisle!

When I was searching for a dress, it took me about 3 months of shopping, which was a lot longer than other people I've talked to. But it took so long because I had a very clear idea of what I wanted. The dress I got in the end was pretty much just the best dress - it wasn't what I had in my head when I started the process.

So, my advice is that if you are trying on lots of dresses that are almost right, and you have a really specific idea of exactly what you want, why not try to have it made? Is there any better occasion to have something custom-made, just for you?

And let me add my congratulations. Engagements are so exciting!

3:02 PM  

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