Things that go bump in the middle of the night
SisB wrote this wonderful rant on her husband's getting up routine that I could have written:
It does not work for me for the alarm to go off at 4:13, 4:17, 4:21, 4:25 and 4:29 before you finally get out of bed. It does not work for me for the alarm to go off for an entire minute with you stretching and looking at it to decide whether you're going to get up or not. It does not work for me that when you finally get up, you turn the bathroom light on to shine directly in my face because you forgot to shut the door before you turned on the light.
When we got married, my husband was on early mornings, which meant he had to get up at 4:30. And see, if this were me, I would do things like this: prepare my clothes the night before, perhaps lay them out in the livingroom or in the bathroom. I would only let the alarm clock go off once, jump up, and get into the bathroom, where I would turn on the light, only after closing the door. When I explained that way of doing things to him, he seemed perturbed, and asked what difference it would make: this is from the guy who can sleep through anything...of course he can't understand my perspective: even the slightest amount of light in the room bothers me, who jumps awake at the slightest sound or movement. It's one of those things that can just ruin a day and make you grumpy and hateful.
I feel like such a nag when I ask him to undress before coming into the bedroom if he is working nights. He once came home at about 1:30AM, and opened the bedroom door and proceeded to take off his uniform: I heard the boots unlacing, the velcro coming unattached, the belt unbuckle, the zipper un zip...honey if you are wearing elastic waisted pants, a t-shirt and flip flops, then it might not be as bothersome...but all that? Hello? It's like the equivalent of a chainsaw for me at that time in the night.
But 6 months into our marriage we definitely have an understanding, and he is a real dear about it, but I know that he still doesn't quite understand why he has to jump through so many hoops.
It does not work for me for the alarm to go off at 4:13, 4:17, 4:21, 4:25 and 4:29 before you finally get out of bed. It does not work for me for the alarm to go off for an entire minute with you stretching and looking at it to decide whether you're going to get up or not. It does not work for me that when you finally get up, you turn the bathroom light on to shine directly in my face because you forgot to shut the door before you turned on the light.
When we got married, my husband was on early mornings, which meant he had to get up at 4:30. And see, if this were me, I would do things like this: prepare my clothes the night before, perhaps lay them out in the livingroom or in the bathroom. I would only let the alarm clock go off once, jump up, and get into the bathroom, where I would turn on the light, only after closing the door. When I explained that way of doing things to him, he seemed perturbed, and asked what difference it would make: this is from the guy who can sleep through anything...of course he can't understand my perspective: even the slightest amount of light in the room bothers me, who jumps awake at the slightest sound or movement. It's one of those things that can just ruin a day and make you grumpy and hateful.
I feel like such a nag when I ask him to undress before coming into the bedroom if he is working nights. He once came home at about 1:30AM, and opened the bedroom door and proceeded to take off his uniform: I heard the boots unlacing, the velcro coming unattached, the belt unbuckle, the zipper un zip...honey if you are wearing elastic waisted pants, a t-shirt and flip flops, then it might not be as bothersome...but all that? Hello? It's like the equivalent of a chainsaw for me at that time in the night.
But 6 months into our marriage we definitely have an understanding, and he is a real dear about it, but I know that he still doesn't quite understand why he has to jump through so many hoops.
posted by CaliValleyGirl at 4:50 PM
3 Comments:
I definitely understand! I almost always get up before my hubby because I have further to drive to work. On the rare occassions that he has to get up first, his alarm goes off, and off, and off...then he has to turn on the light to get to his clothes, etc. However, it is very rare, and now that I have complained about it, he's much better about shutting off his alarm, and he warns me before turning on the light so I can put the pillow over my head. Ahh...compromise!
YES! That is EXACTLY what I would do! Which is part of why this makes me so mad every morning.
Speaking of, it's 5 AM again and I am not amused.
I am the same - I make Todd get dressed in another room and tell him not to come back in for the goodbye kiss once he's in that noisy uniform. Just tell me bye when you get out of bed!
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