Thursday, April 10, 2008

Marriage vs. wedding

Marriage rules.

Yesterday evening I was contemplating our almost 7 month union and commented to my husband: "You know, the wedding was nice and everything, but, whew, in retrospect that wasn't the most fun ever." And he agreed that being married has been a lot of fun, whereas we were both a bundle of nerves up until the wedding.

I mean, it was great to have friends and family there, but there was so much trepidation and worry and nervousness, that I really didn't enjoy it as much as you imagine you are going to enjoy your wedding day. It was truly beautiful and we have the photos to prove it...but marriage has proven to be a lot more fulfilling!

I definitely don't look back on my wedding day and wish we could do it all over seems almost like it was a trial to be survived.

Am I the only one who feels like this, or does anyone else look back and feel kind of relieved that it was over and they don't have to relive it?


Blogger Stacy Kaye said...

Our wedding was great! We had it at a place that did everything, and there were no worries! It was SO much fun.

Having said that, however, MARRIAGE is wonderful! We look back on our wedding day fondly, but we have so many more memories from the three and a half years we have been married that we look upon even more fondly-for lack of a better word. Marriage has been this incredible journey, and every year that we get to our anniversary we look back on the year and really enjoy seeing how much life has changed, and how we have grown and changed together. It just gets better and better!

9:49 PM  
Blogger Teresa said...

Ha! We hate looking back at our wedding day for many and various reasons. I didn't like much of anything about it and some *ahem* family issues make it rather cringeworthy. I was just glad when it was all over.

The marriage, however, has been wonderful and since it's lasted 29 years - I guess I could say so far it's been a success.

10:21 PM  
Blogger Army Wife said...

Funny you should post this, around our 17th wedding anniversary...this Sunday.

We got married a week after DH returned from Desert Storm.

Everyone knew we were getting married...told our folks, and family, and we went to my church with 2 witnesses and did it...

I would not change a thing...

it was a wonderful day, and I remember being nervous a little that morning...

but all has been well 17 years has been a blessing....

5:40 AM  
Blogger Butterfly Wife said...

We had a wonderful wedding too. But what came after was even better, deployment and all.

May you have many many years of increasing happiness and fun together. :D

5:27 PM  
Blogger Lara said...

Yes!!! We've been married only since December, but wow--how much more relaxed we are now (at least when we are together!)....The wedding was wonderful, and I wouldn't change anything we did, but unfortunately, like Teresa, we had family issues, which put a blot on things. I'm trying to forget that part because everything else was so perfect.

But, I can't wait to go back to our little church, and see it again one day soon! Yes, marriage is wonderful....can't wait to be together. Ten more weeks!

12:47 AM  
Blogger airforcewife said...

We had a big wedding - it was beautiful. But ever since AFG and I have been telling each other in all seriousness..."Maybe we should have eloped."

Marriage is WAY better than the wedding. WAY.

2:06 AM  
Blogger Sarah said...

Hahahahha! I totally told you so before the wedding :)

I loved our wedding ceremony and hated the reception. I would've changed a lot, and I would've spent way less money...and we only spent about a third of the national average.

Marriage, however, gets better every day.

11:44 PM  
Blogger MQ said...

Well, my wedding was low key, but it is such a rush to think, wow, I'm married!!

5:28 AM  
Blogger Bette said...

This is why we're headed to the courthouse this summer; we KNOW there would be family drama if we tried to get everyone together for a ceremony. We're already married in our hearts, my priest says, so we're doing this one for the Army. And I'm OK with that.

3:31 AM  
Blogger liberal army wife said...

I hated our wedding. but we've been married 30 years... so I guess that evening of discomfort was worth it!


2:02 PM  
Blogger Desi said...

I'm not married (yet) but was actually just thinking about this myself.

Seems to me that the wedding itself gets all the brouhaha, but it's not the significant part. Like, we celebrate our birthdays, but we have 364 other days of the year we live that often hold greater relevance. Isn't the marriage what's really important anyway?

I think that's one of the problems. So many people focus on the amazing wedding that is "the most important day of our lives" and neglect to consider all the days of life that follow that day.

It just seems to me that a marriage deserves far more consideration, time, and effort that is so often put into a wedding prior to its actual occurrence.

5:18 AM  

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