Life Goes On
Interesting post about what a deployment can feel like:
You don't know what it's like to see your parents for the first time in 2 or 3 years, and being shocked because they aged. That's when the reality hits you. Life goes on, even after you're gone.
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When you're gone, Life doesn't stop for you. Your children continue to grow, your wife still goes about her daily life. But it's like you died. Every once in a while, they have a seance. A message comes from the dead. An email or phone call from a disembodied entity. If you send photos of yourself, they are only your memories. Your family or friends don't have any frame of reference for the picture they see. They see you. But they have no experience to tie to the image. You call when you can, but you're on the other side of the planet. You call when they are trying to eat, need to go to the store, taking a bath, living their lives. They're cold, and you're in a hot desert. It's bright outside for them, and in the dead of night for you. You have interupted their lives for moment. They're probably VERY happy to hear from you, but you still can feel alientated.
You don't know what it's like to see your parents for the first time in 2 or 3 years, and being shocked because they aged. That's when the reality hits you. Life goes on, even after you're gone.
[...]
When you're gone, Life doesn't stop for you. Your children continue to grow, your wife still goes about her daily life. But it's like you died. Every once in a while, they have a seance. A message comes from the dead. An email or phone call from a disembodied entity. If you send photos of yourself, they are only your memories. Your family or friends don't have any frame of reference for the picture they see. They see you. But they have no experience to tie to the image. You call when you can, but you're on the other side of the planet. You call when they are trying to eat, need to go to the store, taking a bath, living their lives. They're cold, and you're in a hot desert. It's bright outside for them, and in the dead of night for you. You have interupted their lives for moment. They're probably VERY happy to hear from you, but you still can feel alientated.
posted by CaliValleyGirl at 11:20 PM
2 Comments:
This echos or at least puts a little explanation on my VTC. We were both acting almost like we were first dating and didn't know a thing about each other.
I remember he commented at how long my hair had gotten and I commented at all the new muscles he had.
Neat correlation for me to look at and think about.
Thanks for posting that. It was something I really needed to remind myself today....
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